In the beginning of our journey into downsizing, I was also saying goodbye to a friend and neighbor. She was only a neighbor for a short time, but will be a friend for life. You all know the type of friend I am talking about.
She was transitioning into a new life with her family across the country. One that I could see was bringing her a great deal of anxiety and stress. Her time with her young daughter was going to change as she returned to work full time and her husband accepted a demanding new position. She had been a wonderful friend as we watched the kids play, we talked about our next adventures. We were both leaving, but our futures looked very different.
I was also under quite a bit of stress, but mine was about going against the core of my belief systems or the rhythm of my life. One of the things that stands out to me is that when you go with your own life’s unique rhythm everything flows.
Tony Robbins has a way of explaining that in his Personal Power Series. When your life is in alignment with your true values, it will flow not unlike a river flow through nature. I began studying his techniques a couple of years ago, when a contract position suddenly ended and I was at a crossroads, trying to figure out how to keep being home with my kids yet still create an income.
What happened over the next two years, was a realignment of my values. Not the right versus wrong kind, but the what is the right way for me kind. I simply was not living a life that was authentically mine. There were parts that were in alignment with myself, and others that were anything but me.
I am still a work in progress, but I have learned so much over that time about how to build the life we want. What came as a necessity to downsize our life, began an invitation to become the family we were meant to be.
Before you begin any changes in your life, you have to be sure it is right for you. We knew this was the right choice, but we spent months deciding what our next move was. I learned that downsizing is not really about material possessions, rather a realignment of the most important things and people in your life.
If you are a mom working just to pay the mortgage on that large home, but you secretly want to stay home with your children it is time to give downsizing some serious thought. If you are not struggling financially, but are stressed keeping up a lifestyle of PTA meetings, kids groups, etc. Then you should consider downsizing to the things you love.
One of the best ways to really see what you are spending your time doing is to take some time each week to plan. Scott Dismore has a great post on his blog about planning. It is a great tool that I use weekly. I found that when I was working before having kids, I used a planning system religiously, but when I became a mom, it just became a calendar. The change between strategic planning and calendar is significant. You have to be able to see where your time is going to take control of it again. It is the first step to aligning your life as a mother. One simple step can change everything.